Happy Valentine’s Day!
It’s just around the corner. It’s a day that some look forward to and plan for weeks in advance, while others dread it as they wait for loneliness to widen a gap that’s already there. Regardless of how you feel about this commercial holiday, there’s something to be gained for everyone!
Romantic Love: Significant Others
Some of you already have significant others in your lives and you will likely spend this holiday with them, having dates ranging anywhere from elegant dinners in fancy restaurants to snuggling on the couch with popcorn and Netflix. If that’s the case, go you! Enjoy your time together and make sure your SO knows how much you love them. However, remember that just because there’s a holiday dedicated to love, that doesn’t mean that you can’t show your love for each other all the time. Relationships take commitment. This means that it’s important to validate your feelings for each other regularly (and I don’t just mean with daily ‘I love yous’ and phone calls.) Surprise your SO with a Valentine’s Day-esque gesture throughout the year. Sweep them off their feet all over again once in a while and keep that flame alive. You got this!
Romantic Love: Crushes
Some of you have crushes and this day puts a lot of pressure on you to make a move–to show them you like them and that you want to spend more time with them. You might feel like you need to perform a grand gesture to make an impact on your crush. Just know that whether the gesture is big or small, cute, funny or adventurous, it’ll be memorable because you were brave enough to take that first step towards love. I think that’s worth celebrating, whether or not your crush says yes. And even then, there’s no need to feel pressured into making that first move. It’s up to you to choose the right time, the right place, and the right way to do it. There’s no reason why your love story has to start on this day more than any other.
Then again, Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be all about romance. Love is love, and it deserves to be cherished no matter what form it comes in.
Remind your family that you love them too. You can’t choose your family, and through all the arguing, bickering, and fighting, whether you live at home or not, they will still love you. It took me a long time (and moving half a world away) to realize this myself. I’ll make sure to video call my family back home to remind them that I love them and that I miss them dearly.
It’s also true that some people have families that are difficult to love. They don’t feel like your family and that’s okay too. We each have our own story and our relationships are all forged differently, which means your family may not be your blood relatives. The family you find and bond with in your life’s journey is just as deserving of your love. Take your adopted family, whatever form it takes, on a date and remind them how special they are to you.
Friends are the family you can choose. They will always be there for you through thick and thin. They keep you grounded when your head’s in the clouds and they’re your wings during hard times. They’re the ones you turn to for a shoulder to cry on. They’re the first to hear your good news. Valentine’s Day may be commercially centred on romance, but that doesn’t mean your friends should miss out! I like to go out and buy my best friend a card and her favourite candies, just because I love her just as much ♡. If your friends love you just the same, then it won’t be weird and they’ll appreciate the gesture. I’m sure there are many people you met on the internet that you consider your friends or family, too. Online relationships are just as valid in their own ways and it only takes three little words to make them feel appreciated.
But do you know what all of these relationships have in common? It’s you. You are just as important and deserving of love. I know it’s easy to forget––I know I forget all the time. It’s much easier to think of others and what would make them happy than to think about your own happiness. The fact is that you come first. You always have and you always will. It’s especially easy on this day to forget since everything is geared and commercialized to be given to someone else as an expression of love. That doesn’t mean you should be left out. Go ahead and do something nice for yourself! You deserve it!